Want To Be More Attractive? Ignore The Experts And Do This

No Sugar-Coating

Have you ever noticed some people have the uncanny ability to just draw people to them? They are the "life" of the party, and their social life never seems to be dull.

Compared to these individuals, most of us feel about as attractive as a dentist's waiting room. 

Of course,  there are countless articles on the internet dispensing advice about how to become more attractive.

And most advice is sugar-coated, superficial information we already know deep down, such as:

• lose weight
• smile more
• get a decent haircut/hairstyle
• possess good hygiene
• dress to impress

Yes, all of these are important in helping to make us more attractive.  However, what most advice out there will avoid telling you is having a pleasing personality is what will truly transform you into a human magnet.

See, it's easier to advise people to change the superficial about themselves. Frankly, the masses only want a quick, magical fix they can use to become a Brad Pitt/Halle Berry clone "poof!" overnight.

The only problem is, even if  there were a miracle pill you could swallow, if you have the personality of a rock, no one will want to be in your space for more than a nanosecond.

Becoming A Human Magnet

Developing a pleasing personality takes some real effort, but the results are well worth the investment.

So, what exactly is a pleasing personality? 

Well, it most definitely is not perfecting a plastic smile or impersonating a doormat.

What a pleasing personality consists of is core character traits truly attractive people have developed including:

• Being an active listener.  Active listening means having a laser-like focus on others to really take in what they have to say. IAmNext.com has a fantastic article with tips on how to further develop this valuable skill.

• Exhibiting tolerance.  Nothing is more off-putting than hearing people spew hatred and judgement. It always indicates willful ignorance and a closed mind. Not a good look on anyone.

• Having a sense of humor.  Being able to laugh at oneself and life's absurdities is not only attractive, but also a great coping mechanism for stress. Plus, laughter just feels good!

• Possessing a kindness of spirit.  The world has a surplus of self-absorbed, inconsiderate people. Dare to stand out from the pack by spreading a little kindness. Performing random acts of kindness not only feels great, but it impacts other people's lives in immeasurable positive ways. For more kindness inspiration, check out the wonderful blog of Secret Agent L.

• Are Interesting!  One of the best ways to become a more interesting person is to stay curious about the world, and the people in it.  Travel a little more.  Volunteer for a cause you believe in. Learn a new hobby. Read more books. Log off Twitter and Facebook for a day and frolic outside. The more life experiences you have, the more fascinating you will become to others.

The Choice Is Yours

Remember, while it is vitally important to take care of your physical health and outward appearance, ultimately it is your personality which will either attract or repel others.

Just how important is personality in making a person more attractive? Share your opinion by commenting below!

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Comments

[Tina T]

This is so true Terez. Every now and then I receive stories from very attractive women who tell me that they are "too pretty" to attract men and that the "plain girls" get all the guys. As superficial as most women seem to think that men are, we hear time and time again from men that they much prefer the woman who is friendly, animated, smiles and makes eye contact. If this woman happens to be less attractive than the beautiful "ice princess" who looks too into herself or makes no effort to interact, then nearly always say they go with the woman who has the more magnetic personality. Plus, let's face it the guy who only wants to leave with the most beautiful woman in the place isn't the guy looking for a meaningful relationship anyway.

[Terez]

Most folks forget that a pretty package will initially attract others, but it takes real depth in order to keep a person interested and engaged. As usual, another fantastic insight Tina. Thanks!