How To Know If You Can Completely Trust Your Partner

Even though I do not watch a lot of television news, it was difficult not to hear about the implosion of actress Sandra Bullock's marriage.  It was everywhere, and almost everyone was talking about it.

What struck me most about this sad scandal was a beautiful, successful, intelligent woman apparently had been almost completely deceived by the man she loved.  He was not remotely the person she believed him to be.

Unfortunately, intimate details of Ms. Bullock's ordeal were made public because her chosen profession thrusts her in the spotlight, but how many men and women wake up one morning to discover the partner they thought they knew is a completely different person?

Is there a way to know if you can completely trust your partner?

Honestly, some days my answer would be yes, others the answer would be no.  To say human beings are complex creatures would be the understatement of the millennium. 

What comes to mind is one of my favorite adages. It's an ancient biblical proverb which simply states "a tree is known by the fruit it bears."  The more modern equivalent is: " actions speak louder than words."

In my opinion, the only real way to know if you can trust your partner is to observe if their actions and behaviors match what they say they believe. This may seem obvious, but many people every day remain in unhealthy relationships because they choose to close their eyes and hearts to the truth of their partners' behaviors.

"But he/she loves me!" is the mantra these individuals repeat to themselves over and over in order to excuse actions which indicate exactly the opposite reality.

For instance, abusers frequently tell their victims they love them, but the cycle of abuse continues regardless.

Bottom line, love is a gamble.  Ultimately, we have to trust that what our partners decide to show us is what is actually there. However, we must make sure when we love, we do so with our eyes open, not shut.

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