Dead End Relationships - What You Need To Do To Break Free

Broken Promises

You have been ready for a serious commitment. He has assured you over and over he wants the same. That was a (insert ridiculous amount of time here), and guess what?

Absolutely nothing has changed in your relationship.

You are fed up and wondering what you are doing wrong. 

You may be tempted to follow the advice dispensed in various magazines and books promising strategies guaranteed to "get your boyfriend to propose in 30 days!" or other such similar nonsense.

Please don't fall for crap advice designed to profit from your frustration and desperation.

The Real Deal

Here is the bottom line: if your boyfriend wanted to seriously commit to you and/or marry you, he would have.

If he hasn't yet, it is because deep down he doesn't want to. This is despite all of the excuses he may give.

The truth is, you have done nothing wrong. In fact, it's not about you at all, he just doesn't want the same things out of the relationship you do.

If this is the reality of your situation, it's time for you to break free so you can move on with your life.

As a relationship blogger, it pains me to witness women wasting their precious time and energy on relationships going nowhere fast.

Enough already!  Bottom line, every woman deserves a man who is chomping at the bit to commit and be with them.

No arm twisting necessary.

The Key To Finally Breaking Free

Okay, what exactly do you need to do to break free of dead end relationships? 

You need to have faith:

• faith that ending a dead end relationship will create space in your life for the kind you DO want
• faith there is a partner who will eagerly and joyfully commit to you without being pressured
• faith you are a complete and whole person regardless of your relationship status

Remember, life is too short for you to settle for being involved with someone who doesn't want the same things you do.

The longer you remain in such a circumstance, the more precious time is wasted. Time you can never get back.

So have faith the relationship you desire is possible, then dare to act on it!

For Inspiration

 

For inspiration on how other woman have successfully broken free from toxic relationships, check out The Smart Woman's Breakup Book by Sarah Horth. 

I'm proud to be affiliated with Sarah because her goal is to help women use the considerable power they have to create the kind of love they desire in their lives.

Definitely check her out. My feeling is, you will be glad you did!

What was the longest time you have ever stayed in a dead end relationship? What was the final straw for you? Please share your story with the community by commenting below.

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Comments

[B]

Its been one week since I ended a DEAD 3 year relationship with a boyfriend. DEAD because he showed me countless ways how he was Not committed and would NEVER be committed to me. From sexting ex girlfriends, and at least one other "friend", flirting in front of my face even with my own friends, to finally posting his own dating profile on Plenty of Fish. He always had an excuse and we would "work things out". Needless to say, I felt worthless and unloved, yet he wouldn't leave. The sex became horrible to nonexistent. There were a million red flags, but he was always cuddling and affectionate with me. He spoke of me as his "family". I let myself continue to be fooled. The final straw was when my friend found his dating profile. It was recent with new photos. It was the last disrespectful slap in my face. I realized that he had no regard, no respect, and not the kind of love I wanted anything to do with. It's been hard, but I feel free of all the insecurities. I know this is the best for my life. Now I'm working on ending the patterns I have with men like these. The "wolf" in sheep's clothing will never fool me again. I am happier even alone. To think, I was so fearful that I would fall apart if he ever left me. But I left him and I feel so empowered. He made me doubt that I am a smart cutie with edge and style. Going out with friends, exercising with my dog, and saying how I feel, has proven to me that I am worthy of so much more. He still tries to contact me, trying to get back in. But that door is closed forever. Thank you for the article, I DO have faith that when I'm ready, I will choose a good mate. I won't let just anyone pick me anymore. I will be saying "no thank you" to the wolves out there and looking for the nice guy who wants a nice girl.

[Terez]

B, I am so gratified you enjoyed the article, and took some of your precious time to share your experience with the community!

Next, I want to applaud you taking control of your life, and having the courage to end a very toxic relationship.

To many of us stay in bad relationships out of fear of the unknown. But we can ever know just how amazing true, healthy love feels unless we let go of the past and move forward. B, you have taken the first steps to opening yourself up to allow mature, healthy love to walk in.

To help you on your new journey, please allow me to recommend one of the best relationship books I've ever read. It's entitled "Lies At the Altar: The Truth About Great Marriages" http://amzn.to/s1XMcT by Dr. Robin L. Smith. Dr. Smith provides fantastic advice for people seeking serious, loving, mature relationships. Get her book. You won't regret it!

In the meantime, continue to focus on loving your fabulous self!



I wish you much love and success,

Terez