28 Relationship Questions That Can Change Your Life

Often when seeking solutions to challenges in our lives, the best way to gain clarity is to ask ourselves honest questions about the situation.

The point of the following 28 relationship questions is not to establish guilt or blame, nor is there a right or wrong answer. 

These questions are to help provoke deep thought, and again, to help you obtain more clarity.

Clarity which can often led to healthy change.

1. If you knew you only had 5 minutes left to live, how would you feel about the last conversation you had with your partner?

2.  Is there a secret you've been keeping that if your partner knew, you feel you would lose them?

3.  When was the first time you realized you had fallen in love with your partner?

4.  Do you feel your partner has seen you at your best/worst?

5.  Do you feel your partner completely accepts you?

6. Does your sex life fulfill you? Why or Why not?

7.  If you knew without a shadow of a doubt you could have an affair without your partner ever knowing,   would you?

8.  Do you consider your partner as your very best friend?

9.  Do you believe in soul mates? If so, is your partner yours?

10. Do you completely trust your partner?

11. Do you feel your partner completely trusts you?

12. Ever feel as if you have had an entire conversation with your partner without ever saying a word?

13. Does it bother you that your partner has close friends of the opposite sex?

14. What is the happiest memory you have of you and your partner?  What makes it so special to you?

15. When you two argue, are past wrongs and resentments often brought up?

16. How do you feel when your partner arrives home after being away?

17. When was the last time you told each other "I love you?"

18. How do you feel about your partner's sexual past?

19. When you think of your future together, what emotions are evoked?

20. How do you feel when your partner is found attractive by others?

21. What are your feelings about the way your household finances are managed?

22. Do you enjoy spending time with each other's families? Why or why not?

23. How often do you make each other laugh?

24. Do you feel you have made personal sacrifices for your relationship?

25. Do you believe your partner is "in your corner?"

26. How do you think your partner would describe you if someone asked? Would you agree with their description?

27. When was the last time you just held each other close?

28. What will you do today to express your love to your partner?

An excellent book I am proud to be affiliated with, is author Michael Webb's 1000 Questions For Couples.

This guide provides an extensive listing of deep, probing questions on topics couples should discuss, but often do not.

In your opinion, why do couples avoid discussing certain important topics, such as money management? Share your thoughts with the community by commenting below.

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Comments

[Tinzley]

Terez, These are great questions that couples should ask and I'm certain if they are mature enough to see the true concept behind there questions it would make a ton of difference in their life and relationship. Great Post!

[Terez]

Tinzley, the older I get, the more I realize most of us know the answers as to why certain situations exist in our lives - we're just often too afraid to ask ourselves the right questions! Thanks for commenting!

[Patricia - Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker]

What a great set of very important questions. My husband and I have been married for 38 years, mostly because neither of us is jealous of the other one because we trust each other. We are also best friends. We talk to each other about everything that is important to either of us. We have had many struggles throughout the years because I am an incest survivor. I have worked on most of my issues and been able to resolve and forgive much of the issues over the past 20+ years. My husband has given me the space and the time to do this very important work on myself. Because of that, we are very good as a couple. We love and support each other.

[Terez]

Thanks for sharing your story Patricia! You presented the main keys of success for any relationship: love, trust, support, honesty, friendship, and last but not least, having the courage to talk to each other about ANYTHING. However, let's not underestimate the importance of making each other laugh. Laughter has amazing healing and restorative powers.

This question is open to anyone: What are other attributes of healthy relationships not mentioned in the article?

[Tina T]

There are certain questions that we need to ask that force us to take an honest look at ourselves and our partner. My favorite is "is your partner in your corner." My husband is my biggest fan, and I'm his biggest fan as well. If you decide that everything that you do or say will be the actions of someone who is truly in their partner's corner, then you will never go wrong.

[Terez]

Mutual support is an essential foundation of any healthy marriage or long-term relationship. If you don't feel your partner believes in you, what is the point? As usual, great observation Tina!